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Isabella Bruno's avatar

This is such a a wonderful exploration of your lived experience and current research (and past!). Thank you for writing and sharing it.

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Dr KB's avatar

Loved this. Your point about clinicians never asking "what are you already using to cope?" before reaching for the prescription pad – that's the gap I see constantly. You're naming the real tension: ADHD shows up as a mismatch as much as a "deficit", and meds can either buy breathing space to fix the context… or prop up a bad one.

What tends to work best in my experience as a doctor (and patient) working in ADHD is a both/and plan framed as a time-boxed experiment, not a forever decision. A simple scaffold I use:

CARE — Context, Aims, Risks, Experiments

Context. Map the current coping stack (caffeine, overwork, crisis-deadlines, exercise) plus friction points at work/home. Name one environment change you can make this week: written agendas, 3-box task list (Must/Should/If time), 10-minute walk after lunch, phone charging in another room after 9pm.

Aims. Pick 3 outcomes that matter in real life – reply to emails within 24h, start tasks within 2 minutes, lights-out by 11pm. Baseline them for a week.

Risks. Sleep, appetite, pulse/BP, mood rebound, anxiety spikes, dependency patterns (including "productive" ones like workaholism). Decide upfront what would make you stop or dial down.

Experiments. Stack one change at a time. If medication is used, treat it as a scaffold: lowest effective dose, daytime cut-off, weekly check-ins, one "med-light" day to test whether skills generalise. Review at week 6 and week 12 with the original aims in hand.

Medication isn't a moral failure. Nor is declining it. The red line I try to hold: never widen the mismatch (longer hours, impossible workloads) just because the brain feels smoother today.

I'd be curious to know, if you had 12 weeks and three metrics, which ones would you choose to track?

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